How To Talk With Irrational PWM Clients?

sure thing man, I try to arrange my life to be antifragile, but sometimes it ends up just being avoiding fragility and surviving rather than "gaining" from disorder (taleb's actual definition). let me share what I mean.

in life, random shit will happen that is completely outside of your control. you cannot prevent chaos from entering your life, but you can attempt to arrange your life in such a way that you either survive or you thrive in the face of chaos. for example, anyone who works in markets knows your income is not guaranteed, and unless you own your own shop, your job isn't guaranteed, but even if you do, your clientele isn't as people can pull their money, markets can go haywire, etc., so you better be deliberate with how you manage your work. for me, I don't take outsized bets in any one thing, my portfolio is very well diversified (30-40 stocks which covers US LC sector,thenETFs/MFsfor otherasset classes), and I have a quality bias. the antifragility thing here is that quality investments tend to hold up better when chaos strikes, and this strategy will keep me from the next AMZN to be sure, but it will also keep me from the next valeant, wework, or from buying ZM at $580/shr. often times when chaos strikes our practice, we emerge stronger, because our portfolios have held up better and our clientele either stay with us or refer others to us.

this also comes in with budgeting. I approach my budgeting like this: is the expense I'm about to undertake something I'd do if my income fell by 30%, 40%, 50%? if no, I think twice about it and pass more often than not. this mostly shows its face in things like recurring expenses. for example, I don't have a country club membership even though I could afford one. it carries with it certain lifestyle expectations and spending expectations that I quite frankly take issue with and don't have an interest in. if you drop $50k to join a club and are paying a 2nd mortgage every month to stay a member, you're introducing fragility to your life. that's not an easy expense to extricate from your life in the event shit goes wrong, so I prefer to just play golf at public/semi private courses when I do play, and keep that flexibility (plus, what if I move?). it should go without saying, but I live far below my means, I save 30% of my income (401k, megabackdoor roth, deferred comp, etc.) before the paycheck hits my bank account, and I maybe spend 60% of that number on a regular basis. if shit hits the fan, I'll be fine.

更多的预算。理想情况下我不会有任何黛比t, but I have some which I keep minimal. my mortgage payment is less than 9% of my gross income and I only pay 70% of it (wife works, she pays the other portion), so if we go through another stagflation episode and we lose a bunch of clients, I'll still have my house and be able to pay my bills. I think too often people use rules of thumb which aren't designed for antifragility. that's their prerogative, but I sleep easy knowing a whole bunch of shit can go wrong and I can survive and likely use the extra cash I'm not throwing into debt for opportunistic things, maybe it's helping a family member who's down on their luck, maybe it's just buying stocks on the cheap, maybe it's reinvesting into my business to protect my clientele, this has not only the benefit of my personal finances being secure, but it minimizes the worry I experience while working, which I think is beneficial for my clients. if I'm not worried about making my mortgage payment, country club payment, and private yoga lesson payments for my wife (she works out with me in our home gym), then I go into work less stressed and am already one step ahead of the competition. and finally, I am a bit of a minimalist. I rarely buy new clothes unless I'm in Italy where I splurge a bit, I keep my iPhones well past their useful life, I don't have expensive shit in the house that I'm attached to. if the zombies start coming, I just grab my wife, my gun, and my surfboard and I'm outta here, I can leave everything behind. if you have a simple life, you are more nimble and able to weather the inevitable storms you'll encounter.

this also goes into career which isn't exactly personal finance but it's related. I have a job where I can theoretically work from anywhere. my clientele by and large would follow me wherever I went, be it Florida, Costa Rica, or Iberia. so if shit goes South here in the USA in a big way, I'm mobile. I don't anticipate those things happening, but I'm ready for some unknown event that could smack me between the eyes and I'd like to think my career is nimble enough that I can just pick up, move elsewhere, and emerge from the crisis better than I entered it. I think this same thing applies if you have a special skillset that isn't tethered to one location or temporary thing. for example - social media marketing. I view this as a temporary thing that can definitely make money but exposes you to EXTREME fragility. all it takes is one thing for your golden goose to ban you for life and then your entire source of income evaporates, you have no backup plan (unless it's a side gig). ditto for accountants who are experts in some esoteric part of the tax code. well if the IRS changes that, you're completely fucked. on the other hand, if you know how to trade foreign currency, lead people, develop land, build a house, pilot a ship, raise cattle, etc., you'll be in demand under the vast majority of situations.

我把antifragility还有其他方法nto my life beyond personal finance, like eating dirt, drinking tap water, lifting weights, do intense cardio (swimming and running, not a cyclist), kickboxing (show me a kickboxer with osteoperosis), using the sauna, not using sunscreen 100% of the time (I'm mixed race so this is easier for me than someone who may be 100% irish and lives in the south), and so on. in closing, let me say this. I do not lay awake at night thinking about what could go wrong. one of the benefits of approaching life this way is you actually worry less. when corona hit, my income tanked along with everyone else whose income is denominated in AUM, but my life didn't change at all for financial reasons. the way I look at it is like this, by incorporating these principles into my life, I'll be good either way. if things continue to go well, of course I'll benefit, and while I'll never make Barron's for being America's top performing advisor, I'll make more money, get more clients, etc., and if shit hits the fan, I'll be fine as well for all the reasons I describe above. it's difficult because you have to shun lifestyle enhancement and that's way easier said than done. we can go there if you want, but I've already written too much and I feel bad for detracting from the original purpose of the OP