Approaching a Girl in Private Equity?

Say there's a girl that's caught my attention. VP at aMMPEfund, tier 1 city and anMBAfrom Harvard/Wharton/Stanford. Not sure of her relationship status, but I'll cross that bridge. In the meantime, and GENERALLY speaking, how stuck up are girls in high finance? Similar to the bros?

To be clear, I work at a regional bank in commercial banking. Pay is stellar, WLB is unbelievably good and one day I would like to start my own debt fund (which doesn't get panties wet, I know). Semi-target education, decent looking and an insecure douchebag at times. IRL, I'm flattered by how much girls trust me right off the bat...I'll take that as I'm approachable and not creepy.

Based on anecdote/small sample size, girls at white shoe law firms are too resume focused.

Please chime in with opinions, questions and of course, roasts!

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  • Analyst 1inPE - LBOs
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Girls generally want to be with someone that they perceive to have equal or greater intelligence and professional success. Everyone's different though, so who knows what this one girl is like. Approach her as normal and find out.

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  • Associate 2inPE - LBOs
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  • Analyst 1inPE - LBOs
7d

It's me, VP atMMPEfund in Tier 1 city with anMBAfrom Harvard/Wharton/Stanford.

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Dr. Rahma Dikhinmahas, what's your opinion? Comment below:

If she works inPE, and is good looking, and you're asking generally: pretty damn stuck up is a decent bet.

But you wouldn't want to be dating a stuck up girl in any serious way, so you have to approach it as though she's cool. No point planning around a situation that's untenable. Assume the best and go for it. Unless you're aiming for less serious in which case mean girls are a lot of fun. No guilt factor.

  • Investment AnalystinIB-M&A
7d

Why would you ever want to date a girl that's in PE? Date a girl that works in like marketing or HR or something.

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  • Associate 2inIB-M&A
7d

Not everyone wants to date a bimbo

  • Analyst 2inIB - Cov
7d

you're not good enough

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  • TellerinNon-profit
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Stonks1990, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Dude, just ask. Literally the only sure-fire way to know.

Asking how 'stuck-up' girls in high finance are is the same as asking how many chicks in marketing like coffee. Some of them may, some of them may not. Sure, broad generalizations can occasionally be assumed, but 95% of the time it's just a personal thing. She could be the sweetest girl ever, or she could be an asshole. You won't find any of the answers on this forum, just gotta ask.

You mention that you're 'approachable', so that's a good start. Forget your job, forget hers. It shouldn't actually matter - if you're a nice enough guy, not a creep, and you take care of yourself, then you'll have no issues finding a chick. I'll just ask this - if a potential partner looks down on you for working in CB, is thatreallythe kind of person you want to be with?

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BooBooHoo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Exactly this.

Sounds like OP has most of his shit together. There's more to life than money (as hard as it is to feel when looking at numbers all day...).

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  • Research AnalystinPE - Growth
7d

Private Equity Girl = PEG.

That's what you should be prepared for working as the guy in commercial banking. A nice pegging.

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ConfusedGuru, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Actually if the girl is perceived to be super out of every guys league, those girls tend to be the easiest to get because every other man is intimidated and thinks he has no chance. And she probably gets approached by douchey finance bros so just be like a half-decent guy

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  • Analyst 1inIB-M&A
7d

Ask her what kind of model she is working towards

If she opens her laptop instead of her Instagram, she is the one.

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  • DeveloperinPE - Other
7d

Lol, most women don't get as much attention as you think. Give it a shot king

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bawstin, what's your opinion? Comment below:

How does she looks like? Like which celebrity?

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Rookie_numbers, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Hey man. I read the thread and now I'm wayy too invested in this (wasting time while I should be getting that freshman internshipat that LMMbank) . Can you make a follow up post of how this goes? Or just do me the update lol

  • Associate 2inPE - LBOs
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We all want it. OP needs to give weekly updates.

  • Analyst 1inIB-M&A
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