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最近，当我提到我平均每周看到我的大约两次时，我的一个好朋友发表了一些尖叫的评论。“太少了。你满意吗？”
Granted two-three times a week is not that much for a couple who lives in the same city, though I'll preface by saying we both work very intense high-pressure finance jobs. I just started ~8 months ago and my group is pretty tough on first years, expecting them to be on call until very late every day (even on weekends, we're expected to drop what we're doing and work if a request comes our way), as I'm sure is common at lots ofBBS和EBS。My SO has a bit more flexibility but their job is even more intense than mine, so it's a bit hard for us to be in the right headspace during the week when work is weighing down on us so hard.
相比之下，我的朋友有一份经典的9-5工作，所以他们的工作也很悠闲，寒意 - 所以当然，他们每天都可以彼此见面。
Personally, my SO and I are quite satisfied / happy in our relationship - when we can't see each other during the week, we make sure to text frequently / call / facetime or do a netflix party or something like that, just to make sure we're spending time together.
但是，评论让我想知道 - 我们在一起花太少了吗？我们应该做更多的努力吗？我很想知道财务中的其他人，尤其是分析师。
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why don't you two live together?
这是一个很好的观点，但是我们约会不到一年。肯定会在明年左右的时间里娱乐该选项。
惊讶您说这是一个很好的观点，好像您以前从未想过。这是一个明显的问题
对您不急于做事有好处。关系中唯一的人是您和她。只要对你们两个有效，这很重要。
So let me get this straight, you and your gf know you're both content under the current circumstances and your friend wants to talk shit? If he brings it up again hit him with the "nobody asked"
Relationships aren't the uniform across the board. What works for some doesn't work for others. If you're still concerned, just have a conversation with your gf and reaffirm expectations / check if anything has changed
不是问题的一部分，但是什么样的朋友对他的朋友关系的实力发表了尖刻的评论？如果他有合理的担忧
OP在这里 - 同意，在关系方面，这个朋友并不是最支持的。我觉得他经常试图比较我们的人际关系和SOS。我认为不是最好的动态。我只需要提醒自己，别人的意见比我 /我的意见重要。
不要再和他说话。这将使您的生活变得更好。有毒/竞争/嫉妒的“朋友”实际上是最糟糕的，对您的健康和福祉造成了破坏。老实说，除了您一生中的这些人，根本没有朋友更好。朋友在那里提供建设性的建议和支持，而不是通过表现竞争力来实现另一个人。
P.S.随着年份的进步，随着您的成就越来越成功，即使在您自己的家庭中，您也必须与越来越多的竞争/嫉妒的人打交道。最好的解决方案是尽可能避免所有这些人。
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这个家伙怎么说。但是，如果您尚未与GF签到有关她是否适用于她的工作，那么您应该这样做。
Just stop the post right there.
如果你们两个对这些高压融资工作感到“很满意或快乐”，那么一切都还好，并且会奏效。
See each other roughly 2 days per week, a coffee sometimes extra during the week, sometimes an extra evening if we're both not busy.PEAssociate. Dating 3 years, not living together. Works perfectly fine. Different strokes for different people
谢谢 - 很高兴知道。
不再有恋爱关系，但是当我仍在看到我的前任时（我们约会约3-4年，从大学的高年级到〜3年），我们可能会亲自花时间2-4次一周，老实说，这对我来说是完全足够的。我们每周一次或两次在彼此的地方度过一整夜，平均每隔一次做爱，并且大多数晚上都会在电话中聊天。我是一个可以内向并且真的很孤独的人，所以我对这种安排完全满意。
最终,问题开始出现when it became clear that we had mismatched desires for how often we would be together. She seemed to want to take the next step of moving in together, which generally entails being together every day (especially during WFH in a 1-bed apt), sleeping together every night, etc., and frankly it turned out to be wayyyyyy too much for me. I felt really smothered, her presence started to really chafe on me over time since I generally can't *totally* relax unless I'm by myself, and I really disliked the general feeling of living on someone else's schedule. She got very upset when I told her how I felt, and it ended up being a major factor in us breaking up.
一边闲逛，我的看法是，如果你们俩都满足于当前的安排，请不要让anyoneelse interfere or make you feel insecure or like you have to make a change that you're not interested in making. I feel like arguably the biggest key to having a successful long-term relationship is the sustainability of your routine, and if you're trying to make something work that you're not totally comfortable with, it'll cause friction even if both people have good intentions. I agree with other comments that say you may want to have a conversation with your SO to reaffirm expectations and desires, but at the end of the day, you're only in the relationship to make yourself and your SO happy. Nobody else's opinion should really matter as long as neither of you are hurting each other or yourselves.
是什么导致你们分手？
To be honest it wasn't really one single thing in particular. It was more a result of tension building over time as a result of a few different issues. A couple years in, she received a job offer in another state and was planning to go to grad school a year or two later and I wasn't willing to move with her, so it provided a natural breakpoint. A couple of the issues that I would highlight were:
还有其他问题，我不会因为我不希望这太久而陷入困境。不幸的是，我上面描述的问题相当偷偷地（即他们不是直接的交易者），这花了一些时间逐渐被他们困扰） - 或者至少，我当时没有足够的经验来识别他们立即地。当在一起的化学反应等时，我们相处得很好，她是一个非常可爱又真正的女孩，非常关心我。就是说，随着时间的流逝，她越来越难以忽视我的问题，当我们以一种友好的方式分手的机会出现时，我感到非常欣慰。
I'm also in a relationship now, and essentially just see my SO on the weekend.
When I initially hit the desk and work was chiller the first few months, we would try to do dinner once/twice a week. But over time as things ramped up, this became unreasonable. Also even if I get off early now, I am usually so exhausted that I just want to be by myself. I'm also an introvert so don't need/want to be around other people all the time.
但是我们总是在整个周末度过大部分时间 - 我通常会在星期五/星期六睡觉，我们通常在周末与共同的朋友一起出去。这对我们来说似乎很好，尤其是因为我们去了不同的大学，所以我们习惯了在周末见面。
我们还在整个星期/一天中始终如一地发短信/snapchat（保持连续剧，并且每隔几个小时做出回应，具体取决于我们的忙碌程度）。因此，即使我们不在一起，这也有助于保持联系。
我同意上面的两条评论，并不同意您应该一起搬进来的第一条评论 - 搬进来是很大的，如果您分手，可能会变得超级凌乱（即谁保持合适，搬家并找到新的租约/室友在工作等方面等等）。每个人都应该对自己想做的事情做出自己的决定，但是如果恋爱关系非常认真，婚姻可能是很高的可能性，我才会与某人一起搬家。我也在20多岁，不希望很快结婚。
FWIW when my (now) wife and I were dating, we'd see each other twice a week. Tuesday evenings and Saturdays. We didn't live together because we didn't want to rush it and my wife is religious.
现在我们俩都WFH，所以老实说，这只是会议和一些郊游not一起。
All analyst years = 1-3 times per week. It's all relative. Could compare to the desolate loneliness of having no SO…
她是这么说的
Me and my girlfriend live 10 minutes away from each other and we hang out 1 time a week. This is enough for me because I am always doing something "productive" for my life. She would probably want to hang out more, but she respects the time when we are apart. We text every night before bed and sometimes英国《金融时报》。我会说，如果您开心，那就没问题了。您的朋友是有毒的，我认为，当涉及到它时，它将成为您和您的所有人。我每周都很好，因为我知道我现在是否可以努力工作，所以有一天我们能够在一个漂亮的房子里一起度过。完全取决于您和您，但是如果您快乐，那就继续前进！
if by SO you mean my bed, about 6 hours per day, 7 if im lucky
No SO. Never. Not that I didn't want one, but various reasons. As a 22-25 year old, 2-3 times during a week makes sense. But I think as you reach your 30s, it makes Sense to live together.
definitely agree with that
Whats SO
重要的另一半
几乎每天几个小时，即使我正在工作，她也会过来，我们一起吃饭，一起睡觉。在周末，我们大部分时间都花了大部分时间，除了她与朋友们计划和我通常有工作的计划外，我们在一起。我想念有时会有一些人，但我真的很喜欢每天见到她，即使我的压力和忙于让她四处走动也是非常舒缓和快乐的。
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