How to deal with Passive Aggressive Young Manager
你好WSO- 我最近加入了一家买入方面的新公司。到目前为止，一切都很好 - 获得更多的曝光率，结识新的团队成员，处于您的意见和挑战的地方，只要您完成工作，人们似乎都是合理的。
不幸的是，我上面有一个人，他已经明确了（在加入之前明确地向我明确地向我明确地说）他们以前从未管理过某人。尽管他们似乎自我意识到自己缺乏管理经验，但尽管犯了自己的公然错误，但他们还是在小错误后继续使用最具防御性的被动攻击性语言。
IBhelped me grow a thicker skin and I've so far handled the current situation by not reacting or correcting the person above me. But they are certainly testing me as it's frustrating to have somebody preach how much they care about being a good manager but just being passive aggressive on workstreams. I understand they may be stressed but when they get passive aggressive, they also get negative and it just strikes me as unprofessional.
TL; DR-关于如何与被动进取的经理打交道的任何建议？
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They're not testing you. You're just dealing with a poor / inexperienced / insecure manager.
我建议您等到大约6个月的标记，然后开始与经理和高级团队直接提出这一点，如果他/她不合作。在大约6个月的标记之前与他们一起工作，并专注于做好工作，并开始主张界限 /尽可能多地进行更多工作。不管你做什么，不要让这种动态无限期地进行。
您在这里有两个风险 - i）与不良经理打交道以及ii）不良指导专业发展的风险增加了压力。后者在您职业生涯的这个阶段和我最关心 /决定性的问题更为关键。
我也有过类似问题之前shop once. The kid in question was ~1-2 years older than myself and similar rank. However, the senior team wanted this kind of staffing model where he was to directly manage me. Similar to your situation, he was very passive aggressive (via email, never in person), uncollaborative, a control freak, and made plenty of mistakes. So there was very little autonomy on the day-to-day. Nothing about the dynamic was normal in the world ofPE。
For the next ~1.5 years or so, I would bring this up regularly with the senior team to no avail. This is how they wanted to run their ship, so I reluctantly went along with it... In hindsight, this was a big mistake. The dynamic had me doing more of the analyst/junior associate role which was a downgrade in responsibilities relative to my previous shop.
煮了一天。“经理" in question took it too far and I snapped. After the incident, I walked into his office unannounced, closed the door behind me, and ripped him a few new ones for several minutes. Basically told him that the status quo is to change immediately, and he is to lay off or I am leaving. Then went into detail about how ridiculous the situation/dynamic was, and how unacceptable it was. One of the few times i've ever lost my cool professionally... The shock on their face was priceless.
I put in my resignation shortly after that and went on to a bigger outfit. Great outcome overall, but the sense of disappointment was real with all of that lost time/energy and knowing that I could have gotten better mentorship / experience. Don't make my mistake of waiting too long.
您非常友善，以彻底且可行的答复，即1）可以应用于职业或之外的任何工作PE, and 2) to take the time to tailor the answer. Thank you!
*Update: It's been two straight weeks of unnecessary language and digs despite warning shots from time to time. Also says stupid, inconsiderate shit about the role, and complains way too much about colleagues. Sadly but fortunately looking for a new gig less than a year in - done with being treated like shit for no reason and being a free therapist.
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