我不开心。请帮忙。

很多人每天都在没有意识到这一点。梦见您真正想要的东西，制定一个计划来到达那里（以几周的数月的数月将其分解为小时），慢慢地，您会看到自己的日常行动如何影响您的整个计划。每天，您都会做一些会影响您自己的生活“时间表”的事情。您现在做出的决定将告诉您您的未来。

表现！我可能对某些人来说听起来很疯狂，但它起作用。就像您梦见某事一样 - 您表现出来。您的大脑将慢慢专注于您想要的东西。

另一件事是，下次您走上班级时，请走很长一段路，因为为什么不这样做！您永远不知道会遇到什么。您可以偶然地抓住那个女孩，或者更好地找到一个新女孩。就个人而言，在这里和这里做的自发事件对我的心理健康有益。我现在从女友那里学到了。有时您必须为生活增添一些香料！

保持身材，相信我，当您盯着镜子全部建造时，您的信心将会闪耀。一个好的身体是您工作的东西。您会因为您走了多远而感到自豪。

祝你好运！

当我在大流行开始时被困在校园里时，游戏有很大帮助

ik sometimes making friends can be tough, however try your best to talk to people from your class start the convo about some school work and them go with the flow, as for the girl go ask her out, you only need 10 seconds of courage to really get something u want you have nothing to lose you clearly don't have a friendship to ruin loll i am just fucking around, one thing is start working out the gym has really changed my life give it a try u wont regret it, one more tip its fine sometimes to play video games/ watch netflix to blow off some steam so do it but be careful not to fall behind of schoolwork

加入您感兴趣的俱乐部。您参加体育运动吗？加入皮卡游戏

Freshman at a state school here. Def join clubs/greek life or try and play club sports, I joined Delta Sigma Pi and the rowing team and it has honestly been amazing as I didn't have much of a social life in high school. Most of my friends were guys I met online playing games like CSGO and Rust. A lot of them turned out to be my best-friends, this summer im actually going to London to meet a few of them.

There is great advice so far in this thread - my comment above relates to making friends through gaming.

关于女孩 - 只问她是否想在某个时候喝食物或饮料。您甚至可以问她是否想去看电影，但是仅供参考，这是Come Come的99％Do顽皮的顽皮。最糟糕的情况是她说不。

上面的一个花花公子谈到了表现 - 这听起来很俗气，但这在某种程度上是真实的。实现一些目标并开始实现目标。开始小，然后上升。罗马不是一天建造的，但是如果某人从前没有远见，就不会建造它。

It does help to have friends you can physically hang out with - I almost never do this now that I've graduated from college, and although I enjoy it, I def would've hated that in college. I remember just showing up at my buddies' place to do nothing because I liked the company. If you hate the guys on your hall and don't see any way to compromise or join them in having fun, try and join some clubs.

Covid是胡说八道，我不想在大学校园内实现锁定和社会疏远。在大学期间，我在病毒或疾病方面最不担心的是。尝试加入GroupMe的大学公寓大楼或您学校的任何俱乐部 - 您可以发出一条消息：“嘿，我想结交一些新朋友，想知道我是否可以加入任何很酷的俱乐部，或者是否有人加入想在某个时候闲逛。”您会感到惊讶的是，人们会有多么好。当然，大学充满了肤浅的人，但也有伟大的人。

I can relate to your post because once I quit my sport in college I had a hard time meeting people to hang out with. I went from training and practicing in all my spare time to having 8+ hours a day to do fuck all. I made all friends at the university rec center, GroupMe's, and through studying abroad.

您需要意识到生活真是太棒了，无论对您扔多少废话。Covid是胡说八道，我讨厌您必须处理这种胡说八道，但不要放弃所有希望。您无法控制锁定和东西，但是您可以控制自己的反应方式。不要让自己下车和悲伤。

祝你好运的兄弟 - 我100％对现代成年男性感到100％。另外，如果您的身体状况不佳，请加入其中。这不会解决精神问题，但会有所帮助。如果您有发达的体格，人们会更加尊重您并变得更好。

获取一张纸，在其中中间画一条线。左派是你现在是谁。权利是你想成为的人。现在绘制一个流程图，如何从左到右改变自己。我做到了，我的生活得到了改善。

上述评论是现实的 - 您想加入活动 /做爱 /爱好 /与某人的共同兴趣会自然地形成一段关系，而不是被强迫。也不要出去做一些爱好，目的是与某人见面。这样做是因为它会让你开心。

Have you thought about transferring schools? I ended up transferring after my sophomore year due to fit, didn't land a great junior internship but worked out ok for full-time.

学会与宿舍相处。如果您不能在像大学这样的不现实世界中与类似情况下类似的人交朋友，那么您的社交技能需要工作。你无法逃脱。您将不得不学习如何结交朋友。考虑一下这只是教您课程的生活。学会对周围的人保持友善，乐于助人，慷慨。学会打破冰。学会有趣和感兴趣。那是你的任务。我们通过课程和艰辛而改变了。 This one is yours.

How do you ask a girl out?

“你想去吃晚餐吗？”那他妈的简单。

可能有助于的事情是将您的幸福感归于个人经验，目标和价值观，而不是其他人。虽然我们本质上是社交的，但很难找到一个群体。相反，您可以为自己开始滚雪球的积极经历。考虑一下您一直想做的事情，不要害怕独自追求它们。当我在一个粗糙的地方，我开始开车去校园附近的一个凉爽的城市。一次邀请了我班上的一个男人，他已经成为我最亲密的朋友之一。不断将自己置于成为某人的好朋友。

我现在不用担心这个女孩。

This might sound stupid but trying to do something that you are too lazy or shy to do has helped me a lot. I wasn't in your exact same position but was completely unhappy a couple of years back (not happy now but I feel much better, mostly with myself).

You are too lazy to go to the gym? Force yourself there

Don't have any friends in your course? Talk to the guy (usually easier to talk to) or girl sitting next to you when the class ends and try to be slightly funny either by mentioning something you can both feel identified with or something about the classes (had a teacher that literally behaved like a sim and asked this to 2 people in my course with a 50% success rate). You can leverage some of these relationships to making friends or something.

您几乎每天都会看到同一个人吗？关于他们跟随您的笑话（请不要关注他们）=这是一个热门或错过的，如果他们无聊，他们会给您交谈，然后您可以利用某种友谊。如果他们不想和您说话，请回到第一平方（现在可能很奇怪，但是不关心别人对你的关键）。

其他提示：

• 如果一些remembe与家人保持联系rs you of someone you met in the past (HS, sports team...) drop them a message (could be a meme or anything). I didn't really talk to this guy but saw a story of him at the gym and sent him: "me vs the guy she tells me not to worry about" (idk why I did it), now whenever I see him we have great conversations.
• 如果您不关心他们的生活=假伪造，则90％的对话应该是关于与您交谈的另一个人。不要成为只谈论她的生活的那个烦人的女孩。
• when doing anything in this life ask yourself: "would a nice person do this?" Try to be the nice person (be honest and treat other with the most polite and respectful behaviour), literally tell people who try to sell you shit on the phone to have a nice day.

Hope this helps, please keep us posted!

Furthermore, regarding girls: don't waste much time chasing them (i.e dont deprive yourself of sleeping just to talk to this random girl). Yeah you might hit, but you can try this while your at a party or something and it's easy to do so (opportunities never stop coming to you). This is my personal opinion, I expect others to disagree with this last opinion.

Bro you better be hitting the gym hard as fuck. If you arnt already, what on earth is wrong with you? There's no surprise you're not happy if you're not getting exercise.

但是，真正的建议是，您需要参加社交的小组锻炼课程：Crossfit或武术（Muay Thai，BJJ或MMA）。在这些环境中很难不结交朋友。报名参加课程，并在一个月内回到这篇文章，您将不会认识到输入该帖子的人。

来欧洲！在这里你总是找到某人

You can do it OP. Rooting for you.

You're one of the lamest people I've read about. All of this is your fault and you seriously need to quit making excuses. Now how do you change this?

我会直接告诉你。晚餐后和早餐前只需要进入宿舍。剩下的一天必须在您的宿舍之外度过。您被允许在校园里的任何地方，但不能在您的宿舍里。

As for dating, I get the concern with crime, but is there really no decent restaurants on campus or social areas like a game room that you can invite her to? I get that there's no Michelin Star but as long as it's better then fast food it works imo.